Leather Language

Black Room:

see Dungeon

Bondage:

Physical materials applied to a submissive to restrain their ability to move, to restrict them.

bottom:

A submissive and or masochist. Someone who enjoys being given various sensations rather than being controlled. Refers to the submissive during the sex act.

boy:

A submissive (male or female) who relates to their Dominant as a male child to parent.

Caning:

Using a long, thin, flexible rod to whip someone. A form of flagellation.

Cat (Cat-o-nine tails):

A multi-tailed whip in which the tails are braided.

Cock and ball torture (cbt):

A SM activity where strong sensations are administered to the male genitals.

Cock Sucking (fellatio):

Administering sensations of an erotic nature to the male genitals with the mouth and tongue.

Consensual:

An activity done by two or more consenting adults.

Cutting:

Shallow decorative cuts are placed on the skin using a sharp instrument in an SM activity.

Cross Dressing:

Dressing in clothing usually worn by the opposite sex.

Daddy:

A Dominant who relates to their submissive as a male parent to child.

Discipline:

Structured Control of a boy or slave by the Master or Dominant. The ability to follow a Direction without question and with pride.

Dog Training/Play:

A structured encounter in which a Master/Trainer gives a slave/dog (puppy) Instruction and Training in proper canine behavior, protocol and interactions. Play occurs when the Master/Trainer Provides the proper environment in which the human dog/puppy can act out and live this part of his/her persona.

Dom:

A male Dominant.

Dominant:

One who enjoys controlling another person by deciding what happens and when.

Dominatrix:

A woman who enjoys taking the dominant role but more often refers to the professional dominatrix who charges for staging scenes where she dominates mainly male clients.

Domme:

A female Dominant.

Dungeon:

A room set up for SM play equipped with hardware, toys, slings, whipping posts, St Andrews Cross, etc.

Electricity:

The use of various forms of electricity to create sensations in a submissive.

Fetish:

Sexual arousal to items, body parts or behaviors that are not innately sexual.

Fisting (Fist Fucking):

The process of inserting the hand completely into the anus.

Flagellation:

The act of one person striking another in usually an erotic context. Activities included are spanking, paddling and whipping.

Flogger:

A multi-tailed whip made of long strips of leather or other flexible material attached to a handle.

Golden Shower:

The act of one person urinating on another as an erotic activity.

Humiliation:

Activities that cause the submissive to feel shame, embarrassment or degradation.

Lifestyle:

The manner and way a person lives, based on community, social and or personal beliefs.

Limits:

The amount and or intensity of pain or play or types of fetish that a submissive believes he can handle and enjoy.

masochist:

A person who enjoys receiving pain and or humiliation, often for sexual gratification.

Master:

A male Dominant usually in an on going relationship in which a slave is submissive to Him.

Mummification:

Bondage in which the submissive is immobilized usually through wrapping in many coils of materials such as plastic wrap, leather, duct tape, etc.

Negotiate:

To discuss (and if Consensual then agree) on the details of what will and will not be done during an SM session. Can mean discussing the terms of a contract between a Master and slave.

Non-consensual:

Anything done by one person to another without their agreement.

Obedience:

Like discipline this is the ability to do what is told. It is also the ability of the boy or slave to understand and perform in a disciplined way.

Paddling:

The striking of a submissive, usually on the buttocks, with a flat instrument.

Pain Pig:

A term used to describe a masochist who can't get enough BDSM stimulation.

Pan Sexual:

An event or scene that includes Dominants and submissives of both genders.

Pig:

A title given to someone who over indulges in excessive sex or engages in raunchy sexual activities.

Play:

Unstructured sexual or SM/BD encounter, often spontaneous.

Pony Training/Play:

A structured encounter in which a Master/Trainer gives a slave/pony Instruction and Training in proper Equine behavior, protocol and interactions. Play occurs when the Master/Trainer Provides the proper environment in which the human pony can act out and live this part of his/her persona.

Pushing Limits:

SM play that takes the submissive up to the edge of what they can stand and a little beyond.

Restraints:

Bondage devices.

Riding Crop (Crop):

An instrument used to motivate horses usually made of leather in SM used to give sensations to a submissive.

Rimming (analingus):

The act of licking, sucking and inserting the tongue into the anus.

SM (Sadomasochism):

Fantasies and experiences in which domination, submission, sadism, masochism, humiliation and related activities are a part of erotic and or sexual play.

Sadist:

A person Who enjoys administering pain and or humiliation, often for sexual gratification.

Safeword:

A word or signal agreed upon by the Dominant and submissive that can mean stop, slow down, or a pause in the action is needed.

Safe Sex:

Sexual activity in which no body fluids are exchanged.

Sane Sex:

Sexual activity free of drugs and alcohol and clear of mind.

Scat (Scatology):

Feces (shit). Used by some in an SM scene for erotic stimulation.

Scene:

A structured sexual or SM/BD encounter. Sometimes a scene is used for instruction or introduction to a new experience.

slave:

A person who hands over power to another, or surrenders it's mental, physical, spiritual, sexual and visual self to a Master's Will..

Spanking:

Striking a submissive’s buttocks with a hand.

Straight:

A heterosexual or someone not interested in SM play.

submissive:

One who yields control by obedience to the Will of a Dominant. A strong characteristic is that of humility.

surrender:

To hand over power to another. To give oneself up into power of anothery.

Switch:

One who enjoys switching roles between being Dominant and submissive.

Tit Torture:

Administering sensations to the nipples usually with clamps, fingernails, teeth, or abrasives.

Top:

A Dominant and or Sadist.

Transvestitism:

See cross dressing.

Vanilla:

Conventional, non-SM sex and or play.

Verbal Abuse:

Erotic play that involves calling the submissive names, insulting them and ridiculing them.

Water Sports (w/s):

Sexual activity involving urine and or enemas.

Whipping:

Administering erotic pain by using flexible instruments such as flogger, cat-o-nine tails, riding crop and cane to strike the submissive’s body.

Safe, Sane, Consensual Defined

The universally accepted credo of this lifestyle is Safe, Sane, and Consensual.

Safe in that the activities participated in do not involve the risk of serious or permanent injury. An injury is an unwanted or unhealthy modification to one's person or state of mind. (Tattoo's, scarification, and piercings being viewed as intentional decoration rather than permanent damage...when done properly.)

Sane in that the activities are intended to result in the mutual pleasure of both parties and are not intended to result in the rapacious pillage of another's body, emotions and/or mind for the sole gratification of one party at the expense of the other. Sane play requires that the Dominant first be in complete control of himself or herself. The Dominant must then exercise the control given by the submissive at all times for the mutual benefit and pleasure of both parties. Losing sight of the very purpose that control was given to the Dominant by the submissive is exploitative and abusive.

Consensual in that each party has knowingly and voluntarily agreed to the activities engaged in and did not withdraw that consent. (Honesty is a prerequisite to knowing consent. Deception and manipulation render consent unknowing and involuntary).

Abbreviations

BD, B&D, B/D:

Bondage and discipline.

BDSM:

Combination of B&D, D&S, and SM.

Bi (Bisexual):

A person who enjoys having sex with both men and women.

BM:

Black Male

CBT:

Cock and ball torture.

D&S:

Dominance and submission.

GM (GWM, GBM):

Gay Male

SM:

Sadomasochism.

S&M:

Sadism and masochism.

TT:

Tit torture.

VA:

Verbal Abuse.

WM:

White Male

WS:

Water Sports.

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